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Husband with low self-image isn’t interested in anything

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My husband experiences a lot of stress in life, not only at work but also privately.
He experiences that the world is moving faster and faster, the digitization that continues, and he feels a great lag in this. On the one hand because novelties do not interest him, but also because he does not understand them. If someone were to explain everything to him (eg a new computer program at work, installing an app on the mobile phone, a recipe for cooking,…. ) this would help, according to him, but it would still require an enormous effort from him.
He has no hobbies and doesn’t really know what he likes. In your list of 141 fun activities, only one he ticked, and this is 88. take a walk (and then just the walk around the pond he takes every day, definitely not a new environment).
He has now been home for 2 weeks on a doctor’s prescription but since he doesn’t know what he likes, he’s starting to feel worse and he thinks he is worth even less….
How can I help him?

Answered by NiceDay Psychologist Faye van Spijk
Answer
Antwoord

Thank you for your question!

I'm sorry to read that your husband seems to get stuck in various areas. Really good of you to send in this question. I can imagine your concern.

Since I have not spoken to or seen your partner myself, I am careful in my advice. You indicate that your partner experiences a lot of stress in life and your partner is bothered by not knowing what he likes. It causes stress and also makes him feel inferior. You indicate that this feeling is increasing now that your partner is home for the next two weeks. Your partner seems to be suffering from the current situation and I can imagine that this also has a lot of influence on your own state of mind.

My advice is that it is a good idea to get professional help. Your partner can discuss the options with your doctor. Know that you and your partner are not alone and that it is okay to seek and receive help. It might be nice to read the following article: https://niceday.app/en/asking-for-help/. In this article, you can read more about ways in which you can ask for help.

If you would like to know more about treatment via NiceDay, you can find more information here. You can follow a treatment via NiceDay at various organizations, such as Sol Psychotherapy, PsyQ or, for example, MiSi NeuroPsy. But in all cases, you need a referral from your GP.

I hope this helped you!

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