the last 3 weeks I’ve been having a hard time with myself, I don’t sleep well, I eat badly, I’m always tired, I don’t feel like doing anything anymore, I always have my mind elsewhere. Do you have any tips on how I can get better and leave everything behind.

I’m not doing well. I feel I should seek help, but I don’t know where. I sleep very little at night and have been wanting to cry for months, but there’s no one I feel safe to cry with, so I hold them in. And then the school exams are almost approaching and I just can’t help myself with it. I don’t remember anything anymore. My head is full and I can’t put anything more in it. And then there is the daily quarrel with my parents… being beaten, not being allowed to make my own choices in life. Suicide also occurs to me more than ever, but I know that that is not the right solution either. Deep down I know I need to seek help, but I don’t know what help?

I have had persistent fatigue complaints for 4 years. After a lot of testing, they found out that I have CFS a year ago. I was then sent via the doctor to a psychologist who, after a few conversations, referred me to a hospital psychologist. Talking to both psychologists didn’t seem to help and I wasn’t sure what to do with it. I thought it was just me and basically gave up hope. Lately, I often feel sad alone and anxious. Do you have any tips/advice for me?

I have been “treated”, but my complaints are now very present again. I’ve had about 30 years of therapy and yet another burnout. I’m very disappointed in the latest support from the practitioner and don’t want any more therapy. Is there any advice?

I have been though a lot in the past: traumas, abuse, unsafe attachment addiction, personality problems, and depression. At the moment I suffer the most from depression. I worry about the past and I miss contact with myself and the people around me. When it gets too hot under my feet I tend to walk away and close and isolate myself. This feels like a relief for a while but then I feel lonely and depressed again.

The relationship with myself is therefore very annoying because I try to keep everything going, but actually lie to myself about what I need. I feel like I don’t know what to choose: the right choice, the best choice or the safest choice! Then I get lost in my head again worrying and then I think: “Never mind, I’m going to watch TV for hours as a distraction”. My ideal situation is to be able to participate, matter, build a good life, know what I want, and know who I am. Occasionally, that has been the case when I went out with someone, a relationship gives me a strong feeling. Being single, I now feel like I’m searching again and I’m thinking: “help!”. I never really built a life of my own, because I was always and still am with another person.

Finally, I would like to relax. The depression makes me so tense that my muscles are all tight and tingling. I am also ashamed of my behaviour and internal mess.

From the age of 6, I was bullied for ten years straight, for no reason whatsoever. After this, I let myself get used, abused, and raped by all kinds of people I trusted or put above myself. Next, I was trapped in narcissistic ‘marriage’. I’ve finally escaped and I’m ‘free’. But I immediately ended up in another toxic relationship. At first, I thought it was all good. However, his true colours are showing now and I’m thrown out in the garbage daily to then be taken out again. I just can’t get rid of it. There are so many things broken about me, about how my system works. Sometimes I am very self-destructive, especially in my head and that also expresses itself physically. I really wish there was someone I could talk to and help me figure out what’s wrong with me.

So I guess my question boils down to if this is something I should seek help about, and if so, where?

A little more specific info about my issue: On a daily basis, I keep forgetting minor things, this is normal, I know. However, I tend to spend hours upon hours asking myself: “What was that thing I forgot?”. This feeling could be a result of a conversation I had and forgot, or just a random thought that went by in my head (even if I didn’t fully grasp the thought and had no time to process it), or the feeling of something I need to do, e.g. chores. I try to tell myself that it isn’t important, which it isn’t, in most cases. I try to distract myself by working out or with entertainment. But I keep having the feeling of forgetting something and it is really upsetting, it can actually stop me from focusing on something more important.

This has been happening for quite a while now. Probably started when I was around 19, and I’m 26 now. Some periods are worse than others, and currently, I’m having a really tough time with this. Multiple times a day, approximately up to 10 times a day, something I “forgot” starts bothering me. This piles up, and at the end of the day I’m almost exhausted trying to figure out everything I “forgot”. A good night of sleep usually makes it all go away, but not always. As far as I can tell there is no correlation between the “good” and “bad” periods.

I don’t see my issue as forgetting things, but rather letting go of them. Is this some kind of anxiety? I would argue that my overall mental health is good, apart from this.

Thanks in advance for any help here.