I’ve been in a relationship with someone since the summer of 2019. Lately, I’ve increasingly noticed that I’m finding it harder to tolerate his behavior:

– He is always “busy,” which actually means gaming, so he doesn’t contribute to any chores.
– He never cleans.
– He doesn’t do the dishes.
– He never cooks unless it’s just for himself.
– He doesn’t tidy up.
– He often orders me around rather than asking politely, for instance, “Fetch this,” “Do that,” “You may do this,” etc.
– He constantly criticizes me, making me feel like I can’t do anything right, e.g., “You should vacuum more,” “You should mop more often,” etc. Basically, there’s always something that I should be doing more or better.

As it stands:
I clean the house weekly, which includes dusting, vacuuming, mopping, laundry, and literally everything else. When I ask him to do something, his response is often “not now” or “I can’t do that.” He refuses to listen to my concerns and labels me as bothersome if I express them.

On October 18, I underwent surgery and received a reversed shoulder prosthesis. I had fallen from a high ladder, and the head of my upper arm was shattered. I am now in the phase where I need to rebuild muscle strength to use my arm as well as possible again. I feel like the prosthesis is something outside of myself, and that I need to learn to accept it as a part of me from now on. My arm feels strange, and I think it won’t turn out well if I can’t start to consider the prosthesis as a part of myself. I also feel angry, I believe.
Can you do something for me?

I’ve been hating my stepdaughter for years. Now she’s allowed to study at her grandmother’s, my mother-in-law’s because a dorm is too expensive. Recently, we found out that my husband doesn’t have to pay for a dorm.

I want her to leave there. After everything she’s done to us, I don’t want her staying, eating, etc., at my mother-in-law’s. She was always allowed to stay because my husband couldn’t afford a dorm. And now that we know he can refuse, nothing has changed, and she’s still there.

Now I even hate my mother-in-law. That stepdaughter filed a complaint against me for sending angry texts. I hate her even more. No one sees my suffering and my depression.

Hello,

I’m really trying to heal from being a people pleaser, but I feel I need help in understanding.

People / therapists always say I cannot really solve people’s problems or change their feelings. But I feel this is wrong. In my teenage years my mum was objectively more happy when I would pretend I’m a child with a disability. Or my grandma would be more happy and have less sadness if I sacrifice my plans for coming over for a week and staying at her place.

I really struggle with the understanding here. I feel that if I do me, if I listen to myself and just take care of myself and my life (while being a good person obviously, I don’t mean here being an egoist), I feel that I actively decide that I don’t lift people’s suffering but I make myself happy. And I just feel that’s wrong. if I could lift someone’s suffering, but I don’t, doesn’t that then mean I say my happiness is more important than other people’s? And this makes me feel like a bad person.

How long does it take you to get over the death of your dog? I had to put my dog Bobbie to sleep 3 months ago, he was over 14.5 years old. He played a very important role in my life. I bought him when I was suffering from severe depression and he helped me get my daily routine in order and go outside a few times every day. I miss him terribly, it is incredibly quiet in the house. During the day, I can find my way around by now. I go outside every day and find that I sometimes enjoy not having to watch my time. I find the evenings and sleeping (because Bob was always in bed) the most difficult. I regularly think he’s still walking around and sleeping next to me. That’s crazy isn’t it? So many people ask me if I’m thinking of buying a new dog. Well I’m not over Bob yet, do you mind. How long does a grieving process take?

Does the size of your living space affect your emotional well-being?

So I guess my question boils down to if this is something I should seek help about, and if so, where?

A little more specific info about my issue: On a daily basis, I keep forgetting minor things, this is normal, I know. However, I tend to spend hours upon hours asking myself: “What was that thing I forgot?”. This feeling could be a result of a conversation I had and forgot, or just a random thought that went by in my head (even if I didn’t fully grasp the thought and had no time to process it), or the feeling of something I need to do, e.g. chores. I try to tell myself that it isn’t important, which it isn’t, in most cases. I try to distract myself by working out or with entertainment. But I keep having the feeling of forgetting something and it is really upsetting, it can actually stop me from focusing on something more important.

This has been happening for quite a while now. Probably started when I was around 19, and I’m 26 now. Some periods are worse than others, and currently, I’m having a really tough time with this. Multiple times a day, approximately up to 10 times a day, something I “forgot” starts bothering me. This piles up, and at the end of the day I’m almost exhausted trying to figure out everything I “forgot”. A good night of sleep usually makes it all go away, but not always. As far as I can tell there is no correlation between the “good” and “bad” periods.

I don’t see my issue as forgetting things, but rather letting go of them. Is this some kind of anxiety? I would argue that my overall mental health is good, apart from this.

Thanks in advance for any help here.

From the age of 6, I was bullied for ten years straight, for no reason whatsoever. After this, I let myself get used, abused, and raped by all kinds of people I trusted or put above myself. Next, I was trapped in narcissistic ‘marriage’. I’ve finally escaped and I’m ‘free’. But I immediately ended up in another toxic relationship. At first, I thought it was all good. However, his true colours are showing now and I’m thrown out in the garbage daily to then be taken out again. I just can’t get rid of it. There are so many things broken about me, about how my system works. Sometimes I am very self-destructive, especially in my head and that also expresses itself physically. I really wish there was someone I could talk to and help me figure out what’s wrong with me.

So when I was pregnant (end of first trimester, start of second), I ended up rescuing a dog. This dog has a ton of personality, funny but a bit mischievous at times. Knows how to sit, lay down and shake a paw. Wasn’t the best at coming back but knew where his home was. When he was a puppy he was afraid of cats, I didn’t think much of it at the time. Later on he started barking, chasing them and it progressed into catching them.. (this started after our baby was born and about 2 months old). Needless to say I had my hands full. It’s been a few months since but the town is now debating on putting him down.. I have possibly found someone multiple hours away to take the dog. But the dog has finally grown out of being a mischievous puppy and has become more of a family dog. What should/could I do about the situation at hand?

I have been traumatized by a narcissistic mother for 70 years and only realize that since she passed away 3 years ago. My therapists originally assumed that I have bipolar disorder, but now they believe that I have emotional dysregulation disorder. I am completely confused. What would you recommend to me? I’m fairly stable now that she’s not terrorising me mentally, but should I still be doing therapy at my age?