Was it selfish of me to initially turn down the Covid test for fear of the swab?

I am in doubt I will be of value to any employer. I just graduated this August and never had a failing grade but I don’t feel confident at all about my skills. What can I do to appreciate myself?

I’ve been indoors since the corona outbreak. Three weeks ago, I left my house ago for an interview with Brijder for my addiction. It was a positive conversation and I went home feeling hopeful. Unfortunately, 2 days later I received a message via the corona app that I had been around someone infected with corona for more than fifteen minutes. After 5 days I was informed that I was not infected myself. I decided to only start my treatment with Brijder, after I had received my vaccination. However, since the visit to Brijder and the anxious wait for the test, I lost my appetite. I have to force myself to eat 2 sandwiches a day. April 22 it is my turn for my first vaccination. Yesterday evening my wife said that a colleague of hers also lost her appetite for a while and that the cause was fear. I am really afraid of Corona and wonder if the report that I have been around someone infected with corona triggered the problem and if there is anything that can be done about it.

I constantly feel rushed and suffer from panic attacks, how do I cope with this?

I was abused 4 years ago and because of that, I went into therapy. This really helped me a lot, but now that I’m in a relationship some things come very close and I have problems trusting my boyfriend and letting go.

What can I do about it?

I am asking this question for a friend of mine. I have benefited from CBT myself and she has not always received good help from the psychologists she has seen for treatment, but I hope it could help her too. However, she finds it very difficult to ask this question herself, but she likes it when I do it for her, which is why I am now contacting her. Let’s call the friend Anna 🙂

Anna is a 27-year-old woman. She lost her father to cancer 2 years ago. Despite that, she has 3 university master’s degrees and she is now doing an intensive traineeship with the government. The rest of the world thinks she’s super beautiful (she really is), but she doesn’t see that herself. She is quite unhappy because of this insecurity, she thinks she is ugly and fears that she will never find a partner. This is of course due to various factors: she has had bad luck with boys and has, among other things, heard from a psychologist, where she was being treated at the time, that she pretended to be because everything in her life was going well (her father was dying at the time, but the psychologist felt that she had no right to be insecure and have problems). She also told me that earlier than she started taking pictures of everything and measuring everything to find out what she really looked like, but that didn’t help and she can’t do that to herself anymore.

I find it very hard to see how genuinely unhappy she is with the way she looks when I would almost kill myself to look like her. I have also had therapy myself and can now honestly say that I love myself, and I wish her that feeling. Her insecurity may not help her looking for a relationship either, she’s really scared about it, she’s so scared that if she’s not looking for a while, she might miss the one, while at the same time she doesn’t even feel like herself holds. The most recent psychologist told her she doesn’t need CBT because it’s not about behaviour, but I wondered if it might not help her after all, because I’ve seen it with myself and other friends how it has helped. And if you also think that CBT is not the solution, or maybe you have another solution in mind. It won’t be solved overnight, of course, but it would be so nice if she could see herself the way her friends see her, and not be so terrified that she never finds someone. Because, of course, even if she never finds someone, it’s not worth letting it ruin her life.

If you do think that CBT could help, could you please send an example G-Schema? Because we have found schemes and used my old ones, they are all about actions in response to thoughts, not just the thoughts themselves. How can she fill out such a schedule when it comes to “I’m ugly”?

I very much hope that you can do something with this, if necessary I can always give extra information and maybe once the story is “out in the open”, she dares to take over the contact herself. And if she might benefit from treatment in real life, do you have any tips for her to open up? I really told my psychologist everything, so that we could achieve a lot, but with me, it came naturally. How can someone who finds that difficult, and has bad experiences with it, manage to do that?

Hi,

I have been suffering from anxiety and panic attacks for 2 months. As a result, I hardly dare to be alone. I am currently on Xanax and quetiapine. At home, I now also feel restless and sad and I panic quite a bit. I always think I’ll never feel better again. Soon I will start with CBT. My question is whether it is normal with this syndrome (generalized anxiety disorder). This makes me very restless.

I have been though a lot in the past: traumas, abuse, unsafe attachment addiction, personality problems, and depression. At the moment I suffer the most from depression. I worry about the past and I miss contact with myself and the people around me. When it gets too hot under my feet I tend to walk away and close and isolate myself. This feels like a relief for a while but then I feel lonely and depressed again.

The relationship with myself is therefore very annoying because I try to keep everything going, but actually lie to myself about what I need. I feel like I don’t know what to choose: the right choice, the best choice or the safest choice! Then I get lost in my head again worrying and then I think: “Never mind, I’m going to watch TV for hours as a distraction”. My ideal situation is to be able to participate, matter, build a good life, know what I want, and know who I am. Occasionally, that has been the case when I went out with someone, a relationship gives me a strong feeling. Being single, I now feel like I’m searching again and I’m thinking: “help!”. I never really built a life of my own, because I was always and still am with another person.

Finally, I would like to relax. The depression makes me so tense that my muscles are all tight and tingling. I am also ashamed of my behaviour and internal mess.

So I guess my question boils down to if this is something I should seek help about, and if so, where?

A little more specific info about my issue: On a daily basis, I keep forgetting minor things, this is normal, I know. However, I tend to spend hours upon hours asking myself: “What was that thing I forgot?”. This feeling could be a result of a conversation I had and forgot, or just a random thought that went by in my head (even if I didn’t fully grasp the thought and had no time to process it), or the feeling of something I need to do, e.g. chores. I try to tell myself that it isn’t important, which it isn’t, in most cases. I try to distract myself by working out or with entertainment. But I keep having the feeling of forgetting something and it is really upsetting, it can actually stop me from focusing on something more important.

This has been happening for quite a while now. Probably started when I was around 19, and I’m 26 now. Some periods are worse than others, and currently, I’m having a really tough time with this. Multiple times a day, approximately up to 10 times a day, something I “forgot” starts bothering me. This piles up, and at the end of the day I’m almost exhausted trying to figure out everything I “forgot”. A good night of sleep usually makes it all go away, but not always. As far as I can tell there is no correlation between the “good” and “bad” periods.

I don’t see my issue as forgetting things, but rather letting go of them. Is this some kind of anxiety? I would argue that my overall mental health is good, apart from this.

Thanks in advance for any help here.