I have been dating someone for 7 months, we have a long distance relationship. We see each other 3 times a month and talk daily for 1-2 hours. We both have a history of dealing with conflict and have emotional trauma from our past relationships.�
5 years ago my partner committed suicide, I still have an unresolved trauma from this. The first two years after my partner committed suicide, I was suicidical. I began using ecstasy 3 to 5 days a week to try and cope with what had happened.�
I haven’t used ecstasy in the last 3 weeks, and I am committed to stop using it by september. But the person who I am dating triggers my unresolved trauma, because I lack emotional coping skills and I need to build myself back up. I support her not using anymore, but she doesn’t support me continuing till September.�
She is unwilling to compromise, but I believe that my plan is the best for me. I don�t want to continue using it until September, I just want the opt. In every area in my life I�m making improvements. I know on the surface it may seem like stopping now is the best, but I know myself and I need time to build back my coping skills.
Hi!�
Thank you for your question. It is important to reach out for help when we are struggling with something. Good job taking that step!�
I am sorry to hear about your partner�s passing. You indicate that you have been using ecstasy as a way to cope. It is important to find healthy coping mechanisms, while ecstasy may provide some relief it may not be the best long term solution for your complaints. It�s important to consider the potential risks of ongoing drug use. Ecstasy can have various impacts on your physical and mental well-being, and it may be contributing to the maintenance of your mental health complaints.�
https://www.talktofrank.com/drug/ecstasy#the-risks�
https://niceday.app/en/coping-with-life-strategies-to-help-you-balance-your-well-being/�
If you notice continued mental health complaints or difficulty stopping with your drug use I would strongly recommend getting professional help to process the trauma and develop more health coping mechanisms. You can visit your GP to ask for a referral to a mental health organisation.�
Take care.
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