Conflict with manager

Here are a few tips to deal with stress and prevent complaints in the long term:

• Ensure a good balance between effort and relaxation
  • Especially now, make sure you do things that you find fun, relaxing, and enjoyable to do. Think of taking a walk while listening to music or having a cup of tea with a friend. By engaging in fun activities you gain positive experiences. This boosts your energy level and recharges you. You may notice that you don't feel like it, and there's a good chance that you'll never quite naturally feel like it at all. It is therefore important to do something that is fun, something that is doable for you to do and that you can easily do in everyday life.
• There is a conflict with your manager. These are difficult situations and can cause a lot of stress. You may feel that you are very dependent on yourself and do not know how to handle this conflict. Remember: you don't have to do it alone! Ask a friend, acquaintance, colleague or family member for advice. What would they do in your situation? Also take a look at this article: https://niceday.app/en/library/mood/interpersonal-psychotherapy/interpersonal-conflict/communication-patterns/. This article explains what helpful and non-helpful ways of communication are.
• You indicate that you feel insecure. That is a very unpleasant feeling and it also makes you extra critical of yourself. Try the opposite: talk to yourself as if you were talking to your best friend, in other words, try talking to yourself compassionately. Self-compassion consists of three parts:
  • Kindness to yourself: It means being kind and understanding towards your own faults and flaws. Instead of judging harshly and criticizing yourself for your shortcomings, you will be able to put an encouraging arm around yourself.
  • No one is perfect: Realizing that all humans are imperfect individuals is important in self-compassion. After all, everyone makes mistakes. So you too. You are, just like anyone else, unique as a person with qualities and pitfalls.
  • Mindfulness: in mindfulness, you are aware of the emotions at that moment in a balanced way. All emotions should be there. This is important for recognizing our pain and allowing us to respond to it with care and kindness. You start to reflect on how difficult it is for you, instead of avoiding or ignoring feelings. It also prevents you from worrying. You don't ignore your pain, you say to yourself, “This is something I'm having a hard time with. How can I best comfort and take care of myself in this difficult moment?”

I hope I was able to help you a little bit with this. Know that you are not alone. Seek help especially if you can't manage it alone or without professional help.

Greetings,

Sarah