People look at my wife while answering my questions

Thanks for your question! I'll give it a shot and offer some advice.

It's a bit tricky to provide a single clear answer based on what you've shared, so I'll break it down for you in terms of eye contact. Eye contact can be influenced by several factors, such as emotional connection and attraction. People tend to unconsciously make more eye contact with someone they feel more connected to or find attractive. Someone with a very soft and warm demeanour, someone you've had lots of positive interactions with, or someone with physically appealing qualities is likely to have more eye contact. Additionally, the dynamics between people or within a conversation can affect eye contact. An authoritative person may receive more eye contact out of politeness and social norms, but it can also backfire if it's perceived as intimidating or threatening. In that case, someone might actually avoid eye contact.

In your case, it's important to explore what it means to you when people make less eye contact with you. It's a natural response to want to figure out how to fix it, but it's also essential to examine why it bothers you. People often interpret avoiding eye contact as a form of rejection, creating the notion that they are less or not good enough. This is a typical fear response, but it often tends to be exaggerated or irrational. Therefore, it's crucial to assess whether the conclusion you draw from reduced eye contact is a helpful and realistic one. When you feel anxious, ask yourself critical questions. For instance: "What evidence is there both for and against someone intentionally rejecting me right now?" Or: "If I didn't feel this way, would I think about the situation differently?"

Discussing this with your partner could also be a good idea to prevent it from causing tension in your relationship. A good conversation about a sensitive topic can often alleviate a lot of stress, and your partner might have some helpful ideas too.

I hope this sets you on the right track a bit!