The numbers from Statistics Netherlands (CBS) show that women are more likely to suffer from psychological problems than men. In 2014, 14% of women said that they are suffering from psychological complaints. For men, this percentage was 9%. For this reason, for example, depression is often labeled as a woman’s disease. But is this statement correct?
‘Do not nag’
How could it be that fewer men are reported with, for example, depression? An explanation could be that men have imposed certain rules on themselves. Many men, think that they should not show weakness and that they should not be vulnerable. Many men are also afraid to express their emotions and therefore, asking for help is something that is rarely done. ‘Do not nag, you’re not a sissy’ and ‘Just keep going, I’ll feel better later’ are thoughts that often haunt them.
Depression or heart problems?
Women visit the psychologist or a social worker more often than men and it is therefore not surprising that the numbers show that women suffer more often from psychological complaints. In addition, women are more likely to be diagnosed with depression, while men are referred to a heart specialist for the same symptoms (for example palpitations and restlessness). Finally, men and women deal differently with their complaints. For example, women notice certain physical changes more quickly and seek help rather than men.
Get rid of the taboo
When it comes to our mental health, many people, and especially men, find it difficult to seek professional help. The fear of being labeled as incompetent and weak is strongly present. How do we break this taboo around having psychological complaints? Talk about psychological problems! Even if it is a big step to make, try to talk about it with your environment. Choose a counselor from your work or from your circle of friends. You will notice that there will be more understanding for you than you might have expected. You can also go to the doctor, he or she can refer you to a GGZ institution or a psychologist in your area. Click here for more information.
‘No health without mental health’
NiceDay
Do you have trouble discussing your feelings with others? Schedule a NiceDay event to have a conversation with a confidant (a friend or relative) and try to discuss your situation. Write in your NiceDay journal how this was for you, how it went and what could have gone better.
