Patterns

Hi,

Thank you for your message. It seems like you've gained an important insight into how you've used relationships as a way to create a sense of security after a difficult childhood. You mention a growing desire for more freedom lately. I notice you don't have a specific question, but I'll do my best to offer some advice.

It's understandable that after 5 years in a good relationship, your wants and needs within the relationship are changing and evolving. It's essential to think about what freedom means to you and what you currently feel is lacking in terms of freedom in your relationship.

A healthy relationship involves a good balance between independence and interdependence. Consider the areas where you'd like to develop more independence. This could involve nurturing your own interests and hobbies, spending more time with friends, and taking the time to understand your own needs and desires.

Then, it's important to discuss this with your partner. Communication is key! Openly discuss your feelings and needs with them and how you can work together to navigate this new phase while considering both of your perspectives and maintaining the connection.

You're on the right path by being aware of these patterns and striving for more balance in your life.

Best regards, Martijn