Whenever I ask someone something out of curiosity (even my adult sons), and my wife is present, people often look at my wife when responding. This happens with waiters, acquaintances, and even my sons. I’ve even mentioned it before, but it still happens. It feels very uncomfortable for me. What could be the reason for this?

Sometimes when my parents leave the house I sneak out to their bedroom. I put on my mother’s pantyhose and apply a bit of makeup. By the time they return home, I’ve already showered, so they don’t notice anything. I find it very exciting, but don’t feel like a woman. Should I tell my parents about this?

I have been traumatized by a narcissistic mother for 70 years and only realize that since she passed away 3 years ago. My therapists originally assumed that I have bipolar disorder, but now they believe that I have emotional dysregulation disorder. I am completely confused. What would you recommend to me? I’m fairly stable now that she’s not terrorising me mentally, but should I still be doing therapy at my age?

I have a question about coping with autism that I have myself.
My form is Asperger Autism./hsp
It makes me sometimes look for less social circles.

2 questions arise on how to make it known to others.
And set the boundaries for myself so I don’t go to extremes.

I have a question about me as a person. I experience stress complaints in contact with others. It takes me a lot of time to respond to others. This might have something to do with something that happened in the past. I once peeked under a shower cubicle and was rejected because of it. I feel ashamed of this. I’m afraid someone will backtrack on it. This is a subconscious thought. Do you have any tips to deal with this?

After doing some self-reflection, this is what I came up with:

I was so afraid that people would leave. This makes sense because I was never very good at communicating. Or as they used to say: PPD-NOS Behavioral and Communication Disorder. So people, no matter how hard I tried, often left and I became more and more distant from them. Why bother knowing how it’s going to end, why not hurt them before they hurt you? Be in control. Alone you are safe because no one can hurt you anymore, but that was just talking about fear. Power does not control her audacity to be open and vulnerable to people. That to me is real power because it takes power to give people something that you know they can use against you. I think I’ve come a long way from that now, but in many ways that fear still controls me.

I deleted my post because I think I’m typing something wrong. I’m still looking for that confirmation. Afraid of rejection
I find myself comparing myself to others. To see if I’m important enough to them. I try to find every hint of things that disapprove of our approval, even if it’s not really there

I run away and leave the server because it’s scary to be close to people and being alone is also what I’m used to. It’s safe and comfortable. I’m ruining the relationship and getting toxic because in a way, thinking people hate you is so much easier than thinking they might like and care about you. I give myself every excuse to stay away.

So my question is: how can I change this behaviour? So that I stop trying to validate people and stop thinking when they say something that sounds like rejection?